Thinking of you and your family Clare on your birthday

It was wonderful to hear so many thoughtful tributes to Clare at yesterday's funeral - her mischievous, fun, exuberant and thoughtful personality came across so strongly from all the accounts given. Clare was a hugely important part of my life as a teenager and young adult, when we spent many hours together sharing a love of literature and music, hanging out in her room listening to old records, going to parties, navigating school life and the turbulence of adolescence, sharing a lot of excitement, laughs, adventures. And then as young adults we had another chance to share our experiences, when I visited her in Brussels and met so many people - an exciting international world of all those she attracted around her. I loved meeting her friends and introducing her to mine too, leading to enduring friendships on both sides. Her zest for life enriched my life in so many ways and I will miss knowing she is there for all of us. My heart goes out to her family. Thinking of you now and sending much love.

My dearest, darling Clare. What will we do without your all-embracing smile, cheeky laugh, dancing eyes and the music that followed your every gesture? I couldn't hold a note but you made me believe I could sing. I'll never forget you xx

Thank you for setting up this memorial to Clare. We hope that you find it a positive experience developing the site and that it becomes a place of comfort and inspiration for you to visit whenever you want or need to.

I am I and you are you, whatever we were to each other that we still are. Speak to me in the easy way which you always used. Why should I be out of mind because I am out of sight? Life means all that it ever meant, it is the same as it ever was.